Kudos to you for walking away from H and D and going inside. Did H seek you out to say good-bye before he left?
On Christmas, would your H be comfortable around your parents and vice-versa?
In your case, if I thought H would be alone for Christmas, I would invite him. I would throw it out there as a casual thought (not a big deal if he declines).
Maybe something like... "You realize H that Christmas is coming, if you haven't made plans you are welcome to join us for the festivities".
If H asks you direct questions about the plans, answer them without adding too many details. Let H decide for himself without any pressure.
It would be perfect if you could plan to ask him on a day he was obviously around you and you just so happened to be decorating/baking at the same time. Our decorations and traditions are usually good for making them realize just how nice home is...and we are for that matter.
Your H has been very thoughtful towards you and appears comfortable being in your presence. You may want to ponder this a tad bit longer, maybe til December 1st to see if H continues to gain progress. The In-Laws visit was a large set back. Your H seems to be making progress of comfort about you albeit at a reserved rate.
I would be aware of my self-preservation on this one. I would hate to invite him and have him accept and make plans for his presence only to have him back out last minute.
Since my H filed for a D, I will not be inviting him to anything concerning me and son. We have Thanksgiving this coming Thursday, son and I are staying home and H will not be invited. Christmas will be the same story.
(((Cas))) I have a feeling your strength at this time would allow you to accept any answer from H on this one.
You are doing just wonderful
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
