Had another talk yesterday. W is still concerned about her futre on her own. Consulted w/ me again as to an IRA. I said sure take something out of your paycheck every week. Her work offers a ROTH but no employer contribution.
Of course she tears up again. She said she feels guilty. I validated as best I could, reassuring her I understood all the pressure she's under with all the "conflicts": moral, at work, and at home. I again had to tell her I would not "screw" her in a D settlement.
I really don't know what's going on with this person: admits to EA, wants to not be married anymore, feels guilty about it. She doesn't seem to trust me?
We had to stay up late because yesterday was D17's birthday and there was the HS football game, after which we went out to eat and sang and had cake. D17 was housesitting this weekend with her band friend, so after we ate she had to come home and pack. So I didn't get to bed till 1:00 AM. W ended up staying up to watch a ppv movie and didn't come to bed until I was long asleep.
Will somebody tell me WTF is going on with this person?
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
