I thought, being a girlie girl I can give you my opinion about a VD gift. First off...DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT BUY HER UNDERWARE! That must be the dummest idea ever! That gift is saying "SEX" and even though I , as a very sexually starved woman would take it, given the sex implication, I still would think is immature. If your wife is the LD one, she will see it as an aggression.
On gift giving for a woman, the more personalized the better. The gift certificate on a Spa is not such a bad idea, but maybe get her a SPA package, actually choose the one for her. For example, if she likes feet massages, then get her one that includes a pedicure and a massage. You get my meaning. You can also accompany it with something that is a little more personal, like a CD you burned with all her favorite song. Itunes sell individual songs for 99 cents or her favorite something, even if it is small. On the card part. Just buy one without any words in it and write a couple of lines telling her you love her.
I know you say that your good intentions can go to hell in any second if she start acting badly towards you, but you know what? sometimes you have to love uncondicionally. Buy her the VD gift and card no matter how good or bad she behaves. You never know, it can turns things around.
MSM. I think I will go with the gift cert. It's something she can use that's personal but at the same time, I can play it off if things go south. I saw a thread in the New Comers that was along the same lines as my question. It was informative. I think I'll go out and buy the cert and card tomorrow and trash the receipt before I change my mind. I'm sure she'll do something that will cheese me off before Saturday. Thanks for the advice.
As long as I'm here, I may as well update.
I think Friday's activities may have been a small step from her. Maybe. During the day, I sent her an email asking her how things were going and told her she should do the best she can and I that she's was given her new job because they know she can handle it and more. She replied with just a thanks and told me her days was going better.
After work, I accepted an invite from some of the ladies in my cubicle hood to go out for drinks. We went to the pub and I transfered to my friend's van to ride with her to get her sister and cash her tax check. She wanted someone BR sized to be with her while she had a lot of cash. While I was getting into her mommy wagon, I felt eyes on me. I didn't do a lot of looking as I didn't want who ever it was to be tipped off and hide from me. I never saw who it was but I saw a sheriff's car leaving the lot on the far side. One of her anti-BR friends is a deputy. On the way back to the pub, W calls me on the cell phone. The ladies decided it would be best to be quite as they may get me in trouble. W I think heard one of them speaking anyway. I didn't really care as I had nothing to hide. One of her first questions was where was I and who was I drinking with. She dropped my cousins name. I told her that I was with folks from work. I think that may have been a lie test best on fresh intel that may have reached her. "Hey -----, I just saw ----- meeting a lady in a parking lot at ---- and riding off with her.
She said she had called work to talk to me as she thought I was working late. She then told me about her day and we did some chit chat. I think she was saying stuff to gauge my reaction as well. Friday was her big overnight with her friend or at least that's what she said she would be doing. As the call was ending, she hung on the phone for a few seconds longer as if she were waiting for me to say something. My friends were hitting me and mouthing for me to say ILY to her. After a few quite seconds, she just said bye. I don't know if that was what she was looking for or not.
My evening ended at a decent hour as the kids were at home by themselves. Yesterday, she came in and was really nice to me. This morning, she came in a little noisy but left quite leaving the coffee pot on. She came home and was a little tense and quite. Not much talk of any kind tonight. We'll see what happens next. I think a ball may be in my court but I don't know my next move. I'll try to hold my mood steady, I had a couple mood swings today to the point where for some reason I couldn't stand her.
