You probably already know this, but if she is the typical women, she wants to talk about her fears with you, but does not want any solutions. This is something I have to learn better, that women like to talk about things, but are not normally looking for a solution, they are looking for empathy. They want us to understand their plights, while not really trying to give them advice on how to handle it. Even encouragment is not always wanted. The want us to UNDERSTAND their feelings. (This is hard for guys).
Good Luck!
NOPkins, negative on the hug. I should have. When we first started talking, I was sitting on the other end of the bed with her sitting at the foot. The kids kept coming up to be nosey so I got up to close the door. I then sat next to her on the bed. At that point, I think I tripped her BR proximity alert. She got up and moved across the room and continued to talk. This told me that a hug may not be in order. After she changed, she came and sat down next to me for a couple minutes to put her socks on. I think that was major in it's self that she changed her mind and sat down next to mo.
CeMar, fortunately, I didn't give her any advice on how to deal with her job. At least not that much. One of the problems on the job is a person who is very close to my family. I gave a little advice on dealing with her. I agree that she didn't really want soulutions from me. She said she had talked to a dude on her job who helped her put part of her day in perspective. I don't think she's ever wanted to take my advice unless she hears it a second time from someone else. I simply do what I do very well (with other people not her she says) and that's to listen. I'm going to send her an email to see how she's doing today.
This morning, she came in got together and left quietly including turning the lights off. She even left the pot on. She reminds me of Pavlov's dog, I offer positive stimuli, she repsonds in the positive? Well not exactly but still....
