How do I deal with now he's overseas?

[newmama]

Piano, I want to believe what Dmod told you but don't put all of your eggs in one basket. I didn't, thankfully, although I was more convinced that he would leave her and not divorce me than what really happened.

Now something interesting- I saw that you said you dominated conversation, was the planner,talked over him. Guess who was similar? Yep. Moi. And the single mom I met up with today (for the 2nd time) was cheated on and left for the OW (after the baby was born).She was/is a take charge,independent kinda gal, too!

???

I totally understand wanting answers. I liked Eric's warning that we may never be able to understand WHY our spouses did what they did and it will drive us crazy. I know I am in a good place right now where I owned my mistakes and recognized his mistakes and I no longer feel like I caused his affair! Are you there yet?