Hey HP. Thanks for the reply. To say the last couple days have been interesting have been an understatement. The day you replied, I came home to find an invitation from my W to attend a D hearing in late March. I don't think I was surprised. It was filed on the last day possible before being dismissed in this state. I don't understand why the date is so far away. I know my attorney spoke to her attorney and filled him in on the sitch with the W. She said she would ask him to slow things down a bit and suggest the counseling thing.
W has run from being snotty and doing her morning noise routine to being nice and such. She surprised me the day I recieved that notice by coming home early. She asked me was there anything important in the mail. I replied just junk. Which was true. The invite was stuck in the door. She looked at me and went about her biz. I think she wanted me to show some reaction to getting the summons. I'm not doing that. I just acted as if nothing came.
After that, she began to get nice to me again. That I don't understand. A couple days ago, she came to me asking about the tax return and how will we split it. I told her down the middle I thought. She then said she didn't think that was fair as she worked her azz off at her second job. She also had the nerve to say the kids were her's as well. I let it slide but I will let her know that she couldn't have worked her second job if it wasn't for my support here at home. I put off going back to school last year for this reason. My being home also enabled her to sit in the parking lot with cart boy and do whatever else it is she's into. I'm thinking of pointing out that this time last year, she "lost" her portion of the mortgage that I had to cover. I also missed my brother's wedding in Vegas due to her losing her mortgage money and not paying a portion of it in Septemeber. This caused our mortgage to go up $600.00 per month. I'm thinking of preparing a spread sheet that shows EVERY time the kids were sick last year, I took my days off to take them to the doctor and paid for the visit and meds. She didn't have days last year because she blew most of them in the Bahamas. Bear in mind, this is a person who screwed up our mortgage and caused me to miss out on a once in a life time event.
I've also noticed another disturbing pattern. The guilt trip on the kids. W sleeps in the loft. The boy wanted to sleep in his own bed but mommy asked him to crash on the floor with her. He tried to come up with every excuse to get out of it but she wasn't having it. He finally gave in when she nearly begged him. She does this a lot and he's tired of it. She then was telling him about a minor surgery she may have to have. Not on her breast but her foot. She was telling him about the anethesia(sp) and such. Well, we just had to put and old pet down due to health issues. The kids know about the sedative before the death shot and it's still in their head. I don't like the fact that she's using stuff like that to get sympathy.
To top things off, I was washing morning dishes the other day when her phone rang. She automatically said hi to the caler. This dude's name was the same as cart boy. I'm not sure if it was him or not. Their talk went to that of him having house problems and him telling her he had a sugar momma and some other mess. I just continued to wash the dishes like a @#$T%$# but I didn't dig that. I didn't send a reaction to her.
That night, the kids were going to be gone. I figured she would be late at work so I went out cut a rug and had a couple drinks. I pull in as she was pulling in. Not late around 11. But she normally gets home 2 hours earlier. I went upstairs and turned on the tunes as I had a step in my head took a shower and went downstairs. She gave me some crazy look. I'm not allowed to take a shower during non standard times as it may appear I'm washing something off. Go figure. To make things worse, it appears she on her period again. Femine stuff is coming out. This will make her 3rd period since mid December. I wonder what this could mean.
