BR: When she stood there for a moment, as she was walking out the door to be with friends, she was wanting you to tell her how nice she looks. I think that she is starved for ATTENTION as well as sex. She just wants you to notice her.
Even if you feel that you are not ready for sex, be sure and give her little signs that you notice her. It seems to me that you are both standing on opposites sides of a huge field and neither one is willing to be the first to make a move. Look, it took two of you to get where you are, and it will take the both of you to meet in the middle. Does it really matter who goes first??
I think that you WILL get your heartfelt apology from her, in regards to the cart boy, but it will be a long time away. Try not to make that a pre-requisite to reconnecting with her.
One other question: When she does nice things for you, do you thank her? What if her love language is words of affirmation, as well as physical touch? Is there something that you could be missing? That is...she thinks you don't notice or don't care about her (small) efforts such as leaving the coffeepot on, so she refuses to do them.
I don't know...just thinkin out loud.
Thanks for the update! Glad to hear of the counseling. I would be sure and let her know that you are in favor of the counseling and that this was not just the lawyer's idea.
Things seem to be on an upswing! Lots of good little things going on. I'm happy for you, BR.
