We validate people's feelings, but not their opinions, etc. Why do we validate, just to appease? If someone is angry at another and would like to kill them, we validate that they are angry, not that they want to kill someone, but why? Why wouldn't we just say, "That's irrational, you know it, and you have to stop feeling that way?"
Is validation a way to acknowledge their right to feel any irrational feeling they have, or a technique to get them to stop defending their feelings so that they can move past their feelings? . . . or something else entirely?
