Update. Br hasn't been on the board for awhile. I didn't want anyone to think W put a pillow over his face and sat on it to smother him.
The past 7 days have been a mix of emotions to say the least. W went from being nice and friendly a couple weekends ago to cold and distant slamming doors. Last Friday, BR went to see his attorney just to get things in order just in case. The meeting with the attorney was actually a nice one. My lawyer is a female who has been divorced and has a lot of it in her family. She says she's pro marriage and would like to see us make it. She asked the normal stuff about property and what not. She then asked about other things like her state of mind and what's going on in general. I told her of the breast deal, the sick family member, her concern for her little cousin and all the other stress stuff that came on her during the last half of the year along with her talk.
She said she wasn't a doctor but could tell the woman was depressed. She said if I wanted to, and this thing moved forward, she could motion for court ordered marriage counseling. That would be a good way to get her there but I'm not sure about that. What do you guys think. W won't do it because she feels only bad stuff will come out and she "doesn't feel anything for me." At least that's what she said a few months ago. My attorney also said she knows her attorney well and he's into saving a marriage if possible. She said she would fill him in on the other stuff I told her and see if he wanted to try and talk to her about counseling and such. She also wanted him to know she was on the case so no funny business. I left feeling pretty good about the prospect of real talking about things. I don't know if he's talked to her or not but he may have the day I left the office.
Last Friday, she called home to ask the girl what she wanted to eat as she was coming in. I could hear her telling her what she wanted and then she said she would come down to as BR what he wanted. I heard a silence and a OK. She came down mad and told me when she asked mommy about me, she said she wasn't talking about getting me anything. That pissed me off so I left to get my own thing. The girl had a little friend over for a sleep over so W ordered pizzas and the annouced she was splitting to go to her friend's house who is having problems at home. Assuming she's telling the truth, I don't see how she can help someone with domestic problems when her house is in a mess.
The next several days, were crazy as well. She was and has been very nice to me. So much so, I'm on alert. The kids say to watch out but go with it, she may be changing. They may be right but my nature is to watch out. Her birthday was this weekend and we were going to do something. She announced that her work friends were having something for her and she would be going out with them. The kids were pissed saying that she puts those guys ahead of us. I couldn't argue with that. She said we could celebrate the next day. I was off so they wanted to fix up the house with balloons and stuff. When she got home she came to tell me how bad her day was and the proceeded to fool with the dog while the kids were calling her to come to the loft. They had a ballon drop planned. It took her 10 minutes to come around and she acted less than impressed. Again, they were not happy.
I don't know where her head is. She's in her early 30's but I think in addition to the other stuff going on, she's going through an MLC. She thinks hanging with the younger in age and/or mentality people at the club is too cool and to hell with the kids. I hope she gets through this phase soon. In addtion to losing myself, she's going to lose the kids too. They've had a belly full of this crazy making.
