Talk to me about letting go.

[cwf]

I am fairly new here. Only posted a couple of times a few months back. My story briefly is H decided he didn't love me anymore. Yes we had some issues but nothing that I thought would lead us to this. We have been separated for a little over 2 years. No OW, he wants to be alone. He works alot and focuses on that(he is self employed) and his kids. He is an excellent father and devoted to his children. We are not legally separated and he has not mentioned divorce since he left. We actually still get along well and he helps with the bills and anything around the house that needs fixing. We don't have daily contact, sometimes I don't speak to him for weeks. I do still love him with all my heart and wish he would change his mind but after about my 4th or 5th time over the last 2 years trying to convince him we should try to reconcile he has again said he is done and that is not going to happen.
I have had DB phone coaching for the last year and a half. I think this is what has kept things peaceful between us all this time. Spoke to Jodi(awesome DB Coach) about letting go. I know this is my only choice so I let my H know I was done trying to convince him to reconcile and was letting go. But I really don't feel like I have let go. I have the same feelings I have had all along. I miss him every day. Think of him constantly and still hope he changes his mind.
So, what does it mean to let go? Have I?