Quote: BR: I have done those things myself. The showing off and whatnot. She is desperately trying to get your attention. I find that, when it's been a while, I start doing ridiculous things like bending over a LOT more than is necessary, my walk gets this crazy sashay going on. Just really silly stuff. But I am emotionally starting to freak out and I need something, anything, from him. I rarely get it when I do these things but I haven't learned that lesson yet. I'm workin on it.
So I think she reaches out to you, trying to get your sexual attention. When she doesn't get it, she panics and picks a fight with you. She is angry that she doesn't have the ability to stir something in you. But she can't fight about THAT so she will find something else.
BR, you know your wife better than anyone else. What would melt her and get you two in the sack? Could you tell her that you have a surprise for her that evening, then wait up and have a drink made for her (she will need it and so will you) and some candles lit? If that is too risky, what about this: When my husband and I were fighting about this a lot, and he would sense me pulling back from him, he would come up to me and give me this long bear hug. He would not let me go when I tried to pull away. Eventually I would feel myself melting into him. Something about that physical closeness made it hard to continue with the attitude. Also, the physical closeness allowed our bodies to take over; our minds couldn't control everything any longer. So maybe just ask her for a hug and then don't let her go? Tell her you aren't done yet.
Good luck and as always, keep me posted!
HP. It makes me feel a little better for you to say you acted this way as well. Like myself, I’m sure she’s all over the place. She told the kids the other day that soon it will be just the 3 of them. Other than for them to leak that to me, I don’t know why should would have said such a thing to them.
I’ll probably try the bear hug tonight. I’m sure she will tell me to get off her (especially when there will be a physical reaction on my part that will be seen and most likely felt) but what the heck. As long as she doesn’t call the cops, I don’t care. I just hope her mood is a good one. It’s an encouraging sign that she still comes home shortly after her job closes unlike before I found her in the parking lot.
Yesterday, I didn’t wear my ring to work because of her being silly. I went home for lunch and saw the wedding picture and put the thing on. Yesterday, I didn’t feel any connection to her. Today, I feel her again. I felt some type of angst/decision/fear type thing. Shortly after, I felt a spike of tempered joy from her and now I feel a little anger. I can only hope this emotional range is about me.
