It's all good. Just go in with your eyes wide open.
Many times the haste to reconciliation means acceptance of things that we shouldn't accept. For the more immediate gratification of ending the separation, we tolerate what might well only lead to issues later on down the road.
I've always been a fan of getting as much of it fixed as possible, once you know you need to get it fixed anyway, if you know what I mean.
Sounds like you've had your own issues. Also sounds like you're thinking about them and trying to make a plan to address them.
There's nothing wrong with expecting her to do the same.
Just keep your head about you, guess that's what I'm saying. I'm a fan of making it work, all the way. Kudos to you for still wanting to try.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
