These posts make me crazy! While there MAY be another guy, she MAY have just been hanging out with friends or trying to think, whatever! Another casualty, you appear to at least be trying to be honest about what is going on and taking responsibility for your part in this fiasco. I know it's painful and your first reaction is self-preservation, as it should be. BUT, you will gain nothing by pretending to be involved with someone else unless you are?? Most of your posting appears to be an honest look at yourself and taking responsibility, but word games can backfire. Keep working on your issues. She doesn't trust you to take care of her, kind of a "get out before he does or hurts me" mentality. If she really isn't having and affair, you can still win her back. I know patience is a pain in the butt, but, you seem to have a pretty good grasp of the situation. Don't let her use you, but don't walk away until you need to. By the way, I hope you went to the bbq. You aren't divorced and it probably would have been funn to see your friends.
