Thanks for the advice guys. I'll try to visualize inhaling her anger and breathing it out.
HP. It took forever but I'm sure what you said is true. I'm thinking over events of the past couple days. On Friday, she left out to do something and came back when I was cooking and hung over the stove. I hate that but didn't react. She was in a good mood then. She got kind of close to me in doing that. It was a test on two fronts I think. On Saturday, the crew were laying on the floor playing board games. She would extend her foot near me. Looking back, I was too into the game and the good feeling we were all doing something to have noticed that move.
On Sunday when we fought, she did mention she has seen a change in me but she needs a man that can show her.... and trailed off. I can do everything in the world to show her I love her but if it isn't physical, it doesn't count.The daughter is just like her mom. She needs hugs 24/7. I've started to give her hugs and such. Mom has walked in a couple times. I now think she must be wondering why not her. She has said more than once I care more for the kids than her.
My pre-DB reaction to her nonsense would to jump in and battle her or do something equally as silly. My current reaction is to just ignore the behavior as if it isn't happening. That may not be the best thing but I think it beat fighting her. She's trying very hard to cheese me off and get me up. Maybe I'll make sure I'm up tomorrow so she can say what she wants to say. I'm sure she'll try something more extreme to get me to go off.
