Thanks Eric, I listed myself first as my motivation for change but truly, if I was the only reason, I would feel selfish. My children need me to change because they learn their behavior from me and my wife (we really do not have extended family)and for that reason, she needs to change as well. She will not change unless I change first and become a role model, so that is why she is listed. I know that her changing in a positive way does not follow from me doing so but I believe is a necessary condition.
BI.....
Dude, I agree with some of what you are sayin here..
Change is something you do for yourself though.
You have to want, it for it to stick around ....
IF you decide to make those changes for anyone else ( including the children) , then you are selling yourself short of what you are truly capable of.
And although you want to change, you are only gonna change enough to want your wife to come back....
These changes you make, they have to be real, they have to make sense, and the have to be for you....and you alone.
You can be a light for your wife to see through her fog, but you can't be her role model....that would be kinda arrogant.
