who are you?

[MrBond]

(((marmie)))
I am sorry to hear the anguish you are going through.

Now is the time to have that conversation with him and tell him that you feel hurt when he does that and that you really want to understand. That you're confused, etc. Everything that you've mentioned here.

I know it's tough, but first realize that this is HIS problem not yours. You've done nothing wrong. In fact, you're doing what any concerned W would do. Have that talk with him and explain how you are feeling.