Yes I read DR and DB, we have done mort fertel's marriage fitness program and are working very hard to understand each other. I have given alot of trust back to my W, but once she started waffling again, I did look at her phone and was pissed that Om still won't leave her alone.

I want her to be happy and be fufilled in her marriage and I know that I would be perfectly fine without her. I guess my problem is that in order to give this a fair shot 1) it would take a long time of hard work to make it feel right 1 or 2 years. 2) Om would be completely out of the picture for enough time to give me a fair shot at her heart.

I know that she loves me very deeply and if it is all possible, she wants to make this work. She is very conflicted on why it just doesn't feel right. I hope that RETRO will give us some direction as to how to move forward and show us how we can build the connection and marriage that we want.