Moving Forward

[flowmom]

I might not have made this point clear...this isn't about piecing anymore.

I am so sorry that you are finding yourself back there.

She wants OM again, she thinks. She isn't sure. I said ok, I will start splitting up assets and opening new checking accounts tonight. She said no, lets give it a day, lets talk again tomorrow night. I said I could give her a little time but not a ton. If she wanted OM, she could find an apartment somewhere to do it in. I also told her no coverups this time. Friends, family, co-workers...they will know...I won't pretend to be married and I'm not going to lie about what happened.

Good for you GW. That is showing DIRECTION...you need to manifest that for yourself so that you can be right within yourself as a man.

She is a wreck. I don't understand why she can't see what this does to her. She said she hasn't slept well all week, her balance is off, she looks just worn down completely. When she gets into thr throws with him, she becomes physically ill.

She is in a personal crisis, and the OM is simply a symptom of that, and a way of coping with her inner angst. If she lets go of the OM, she will still have to deal with all of that because it's about what's going on inside her and her relationship with herself.

There is a big part of me that wants to email OM. Ask him if this is really worth risking his career over and does he have any idea how ill and miserable this actually makes my W...

Please take your focus off the OM. This really isn't about him. If OM really did withdraw, it could make him even more attractive to your W...this really isn't something that you can control and engaging with him puts you in a supplicating role, not in the Man with a Direction role that you need to take right now.

(((hugs)))