Thanks guys. I really am working on myself. It's coming along in stages. Stop the pursuit, then pull back, then get myself together, then work on the 180's, then really listen. I'm getting there slowley.
There is one thing though. Whenever we talk about the sitch, she always tears up and seems conflicted and worried about her future on her own. Talking about need to get an IRA, a better job, afraid to death I'm going to screw her over in the D settlement. I'm trying to be her best friend in all this, 'cause I don't believe she's playing me for a sucker. But then she goes out and has boucoup fun as if everything is perfectly normal.
To answer your question steve, I don't believe she's being childish or petty; I think she's conflicted and trying to hold herself together. Remember when I posted my sitch, S11 is a very fragle sensitive kid, and it seems to eat her up that he could be scarred for life by our D, that he could wind up hating his cheating mother, of course D17 too but she's older. It's gonna come out sooner or later.
At least I have one thing going for me, I'll be there for her, not the OM.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
