steve, this is why I'm getting tested. trapt, thank you for the compassion. bond, this is exactly how i talked to my h: ""honey, I have a problem with you looking at porn and I was wanted to know if there was a reason. Do you think our sex life was lacking? Was there a fantasy? Were you just curious? It makes me uncomfortable for you to be looking at that and makes me feel as if I wasn't enough for you." i was shocked when i caught him, but kept my cool, because we were always respectful when talking to each other. no put-downs or snide comments to one another or in front of other people either. in fact, we always thought that couples that do that were hostile and thier behavior toward each other unseemly. we also had premarital counselling before our wedding 10 years ago, and then the same thing before our orthodox ceremony 4 years ago.
