Thanks for lurking around. I have kind of been in the same boat. Still trying to keep up, but I don't really have much advice to give since I am fighting so hard to make sense of my own sitch.
I have had a lot of kindness come my way from a lot of people, even though I have done pretty good at keeping the details to myself. MIL was kind of a special. H has always been her clear favorite child and could do no wrong in her eyes. Her attitude from the beginning has been that I must have made my H's life unbearable for him to leave his child.
I think that she is seeing more and more of what H is doing. Having to hear her granddaughter cry for me an hour or more every night she is there can't be easy for her. She also lost her own mother and her MIL this year, as well as lost her job and had major back surgery. My FIL losing his job seems to have done her in a bit. She may have hit hit her breaking point. Like me, she may also have run out of excuses for her son.
Just in case, I will not start confiding in her. She is his mom, and it isn’t my job to show her what he is doing or get her on my side. Looks like H is doing a fantastic job of that all on his own anyway.
