and sure enough, her and OM had been talking the whole trip and we both told her the same thing
Sounds as if OM is getting tired of the game. He's lost his M/family b/c of the A. I don't know who made the contact first, but if she reached out to him, he probably is ready for an end to it....one way or the other. She chose you & the girls over him, the last time....and I would think he is not thrilled about that. Their "reunion" may not have been that rosey.
I think her backslide puts her back to square one and all that withdrawal pain will have to be experienced again.
How did you find out they had been in contact? Did you ask or did she volunteer the information?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
