It’s a pretty common problem among married couples – and it’s not about “lying” and it’s not about disrespecting your partner or being deviant– it’s about having hang ups that make it difficult to discuss those intimate issues. It’s about communication.
I really think it's marmie's place to decide what this situation is "about." If she feels lied to and disrespected then I'd say that's what its about...
I am gonna just let marmie talk for now... If you would rather give a potential addict the "benefit of the doubt" that's fine... to me these posters are human beings and I try to err on the side of caution rather than casual. I don't believe in giving people advice that puts them at risk of abuse.
