Okay comments like this isn't talking. It's you judging. It's you saying, "well you're going to go to hell if you don't stop."
"i calmly suggested that it might help if we spoke with our parish priest about this."
When you said this on top of the above statement, it's no wonder he turned you off.
During your conversation, did you REALLY TALK to him. I mean where you listened and not just condemn him. Did you ask him why he was doing it and if there were something wrong with your sex life? You mentioned that you had a pretty good sex life. Maybe he thought otherwise.
Again, I'm not condoning what he's doing, but if you want to save your marriage, getting to the root of it openly without being judgemental is the way to go. IMO saying that you were going to get tested for AIDS because he looked at porn is a little over the top. But that's just me.
Did he give you a reason why he did it, or do you think he was to scared to because you would condemn him and hold it over his head?
Put yourself in his shoes for a minute. If there were something you did that you knew he didn't like, say for example spend money of large ticket item. Would you like to be condemned for it, or would you like to feel safe enough with your mate that you could go and talk openly about it?
That's what it comes down to. Tolerance, compassion and understanding goes both ways.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
