feel love thumping at the doors of my heart again

[flowmom]

I thought that about him because that is exactly where I am. It also sounds like he got dumped by his W because he was a doormat.

I think you're right. It sounds like she is an Irish "super matriarch" and he felt completely emasculated by her.

The "sappy romantic" comment made me think that. Once again that was me. I would never say that to my new date though-thanks to this site I have learned that would be a turn off to a woman!

It wasn't a turnoff to me, I guess because he's done 180s on himself and I think he is now a more confident, assertive man than he was in the past. "Manly" is a must for me, and he has definitely been that...but I can see the vulnerability there as well (which doesn't turn me off because I have genuine fondness for him).

On our 8th anniversay I suprised my W after work wearing a suit. I took her to a great restuaraunt and we had a great time. When we were going to bed I thought for sure it was time for fun...nope! This is what she said before going to sleep,

"I don't want to have sex with you because I feel obligated to after you took me to an expensive restuaraunt."

Real nice wifey, wonder why I stayed with her??

That sucks. I guess many of us in the LBS club have painful memories of putting ourselves out there and being rejected. You know what I said to Guitarist about his "sappy romantic" gesture to his wife that wasn't received the way that he hoped? I said "a gift is still a gift, even if it wasn't appreciated".