Tell ya about her money habits. OK. But, this story has a beginning. 3 years ago, W decided she wanted to quit a great job. The reason, she is obsessed with her 4 year old cousin. She is obssesed to the point where all other considerations including myself and the kids are secondary. Before she quit this job, I warned her the economy would tank and she wouldn't find a job as good. Well before she stormed off, she yelled that she would just get a part-time job. Well, she had to. That's one of our problems. We don't see each other because of that and she has developed some type of relationship there. That will be covered in the update.
Anyway, W was in charge of paying the bills, I would xfer money to her account to cover house bills as well as my bills. I was out of town on biz when I found my cell wasn't working. I didn't pay attention because there was a tornado in town and my company had to shut down the switch board.
But I finally checked to find she hasn't paid my bill in 3 months. I also found out other bills weren't paid. I suspect she was funneling my money to her cousin's family. In fact, she let it slip this summer they owe her(whoops I mean us) money. Long story short, she makes dumb choices. To go to see this person, she took 1 week off without pay. That threw her back. I can't sleep past 8 on Saturdays as her bill collectors start ringing us up.
W also puts emotional crap in front of realistic stuff. Example, tax rebate check. I suggested stock up on kid's meds and a pair of glasses. Rather than do that, she took $170 to the fair she took the kids to. She took $120 to a pork fest and bought her second job friends food and another $300 to cover her trip without pay. The kids did not get their meds. I didn't know she didn't do it or the the glasses. But she made herself feel better by taking them to the fair and treating her user friends to a meal.
We recently came into a couple bucks. I suggested the glasses again. Instead, she blew the money on crap the kids won't care about past January 31. I also suspect she bought her friend something as well. This isn't a lot of detail and it's full of anger. To summarize, W only thinks in 2 dimesions. Making herself feel good by doing dumb things for otheres. She will spend our money to do this. This includes money that should go for the kids.
I may as well update.
Christmas was good although W didn't go to my family's house. She didn't "feel comfortable." Oh well, I had a good time. She had something in the house with her folks. My father being my father gave us a nice card with money. He thinks until the ink is dry, that's his daughter in law. Yesterday, I came across a little intel that indicates W is having massive communications with the guy I caught her with. It started a few weeks ago with a flurry of 1 minute calls. Shortly after a couple 20 minute calls. This goes on for a few days until the middle of this month. On one occasion, she called me in rapid succession but I was in a meeting and couldn't talk. Afterwards she bombards this guy with calls and finally gets him. What makes this thing even crazier for me. The S told me he overheard(which is a specialty of his)his mother and this guy talking. He claims he heard the guy telling W she should stay with ole BR because he's a great guy. This guy doesn't know me from Adam's off aunt so I don't know how he can say that.
Anyway, I have 3 theories. One is that he got "what he came for" and is shoving her off, two, she's telling the truth and they're really friends and one a woman told me is that he thought they were just friends and she's starting to press him. I don't know and I'm confused. Over the past few weeks, shortly after the calls started, she's been very nice to me and we seemed to be getting along. She was talking more, sitting on the bed and such.
Now, I don't know. This poop gets deeper by the minute.
I know spying is a violation, but when I get a tingle in my BS antena, I have to check things out.
Also, the kids inform me mommy is mad at me. She was mad because they told her I was visiting a friend's house. I don't know why they told her that. I was visiting friends in a neighboring town. Strange enough, within a few miles of the guy I caught her with. She must have been mad at me. In addition taking the kids out to eat and making them pay her dinner as well as there own, she refused to let them bring me desert. She came in hot last night and left hot this morning when she found out I was taking the kids to eat and shop. She then called to ask where were we. She was speaking in a friendly tone as if nothing has happened. I don't get this dame.
Any thoughts?
More to follow. Sorry to dump this here but I don't tell many people IRL this stuff.
