When I dated the very nice girl from my divorce group we had already talked about very deep subjects. She knew all about my fight for my marriage, my legal battle, my then stbxw, my views as a father, and it made me attractive to her. huh? All my baggage was attractive to her? Not exactly, but women do seem to really NEED this type of interaction from men. My XW and I were both conflict avoiders! I have learned these new communication skills since the bomb. When I read what you say about guitarist I hear a guy that has had it with hard times. He just wants to have fun and hang out with a beautiful woman. He may not know that you need him to listen to you when you are down. If you let him go too long without letting him know your "dark side" it will become harder for him to open up. This is all my opinion though!
I cruised along for years in my marriage thinking things were ok, not great, but ok. Until the day of the bomb. I was not a mind reader and neither is he. I think I am babbling now.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
