The advice immediately above here is NOT good advice for resolving your issue with your husband.
What it appears to be is that you and your H have a disconnect as to what you think is acceptable. The best thing you can do is to get a professional involved. Michele has sex coaches, and/or you may be able to find a therapist or clergy member with your similar background that can help you and your H navigate these discussions.
Don't throw in the towel....you can work through this. Don't let your fears run wild.
