The 48-hour rule is to wait 48 hours before you react.
The problem with setting boundaries is using it as your DB game plan. In general, it doesn't work, especially alone. It can't be your focus or your main skill. It is more likely to backfire, especially if you aren't the favored option for your spouse.
This does not mean you should never set a boundary. But the boundary/consequence shouldn't be all or nothing. And it is the AFTER THE LAST RESORT technique. It is the LAST option.
Many folks use the wrong 180s. They think a 180 is good just because it's a 180. That may not be where you are at...but it may be.
Here's a test: What was so attractive about you to your spouse when you first fell in love....that is so different now? How does your spouse WANT to see himself?
What can you do....to fill those image gaps for your spouse...that is...blow his current stereotype of you?
