Blackie, I'm with Corri...what're you waiting on dude!
The kids can see you kiss her, hug her, whisper in her ear that you want to ravish her that night. There are TONS of things that you can do to set the mood without the kids knowing what's going on. Actually at your kids age, they prolly do know what's going on!
I would not involve them anymore than they have already been involved. This marriage is between you and your wife. So I would not enlist their help, ie asking them to vamoose at a "signal" of yours or something. Your wife has already entrusted them with WAY too much adult knowledge, imo, such as 'Is BR wearing his wedding band?' and such.
Kids tend to take everything personally and to think that they cause things to happen, or at the very least are a help or hindrance. That is too much pressure for them to have both their parents depending on them for the future of their marriage. They're just children!!
Ok, enough of that.
Now regarding your waiting for the perfect moment in order to put the Big Kahuna moves on the little woman...well my suspicion is that this is a past habit of yours. Am I right? Well if I am, let's just remember that past behaviors have not served either of you well. It is time to start some new habits. THIS IS THE TIME!
This was, without a doubt, the hardest hurdle for my H to overcome. He was constantly waiting for: the kids to be in bed, the dishes to be done, we were both in bed, it wasn't too late...ETC...for us to get busy. Now as you can imagine these perfect times rarely come. He also has a hard time with "letting go" of his sexual self if there is a chance that it might not lead anywhere. To him, he does not want to get all worked up, only to have the kids barge in and ruin everything. Well, as I said above, if we waited for moments of perfection, we will never have any moments together! And really what is so bad about getting hard and then having to resume it later? Extended foreplay is always nice, right!
Once he finally let go of a few things (namely, not wanting to act sexual in front of kids; not wanting to start what we MIGHT not be able to finish; and waiting for the "right" time) we got into a great groove. These were hard for him to let go. It was just like breaking any other habit, it took time and effort on his part.
I had a few habits of my own to break, don't you worry!
Man you are seriously on a roll with your wife and she is waiting for you to make your move. Believe me, she can see the lust in your eyes and body language. It will not come as a surprise to her when you make your move.
This is your year, man!
Keep up updated on all your adventures, you hot sexy hunka burning love........ok, so maybe I just wanted to jump on the bandwagon of all those ladies from Sat night who were hitting on ya! LOLOLOL Just kidding..
