I do have one question though regarding dating women with kids.
Seems my GF is constantly inviting her 12yr old Son to come along whenever she visits me on the weekends or we go out etc. Sometimes she will not even tell me this beforehand, she just brings him with her.
This kind of bothers me a bit as I want her all to myself and it makes intimacy awkward and even kills the mood.
She tells me she cant afford a sitter and does not want to leave him alone at home all day by himself etc.
Am I being a bit too selfish or petty in that regard?
How long have you been dating her? Guitarist and I have been dating for two months (not including the "pause") and we've never met one another's children. That means that we don't see one another as often as we'd like of course. That would be introduced pretty carefully. I wouldn't consider a get-together involving children to be a "date"...but rather a relationship activity. I think you should set a boundary that for each date you discuss whether her son will be included and whether that works for you. I don't think it's selfish or petty. If a friend wanted to spend time with me I'd want to know if a third friend was included -- it changes the dynamics. Maybe make it clear what your expectations are: ie I'd like two child-free dates a week...is that possible? She may not be able to meet your expectations given her parental priorities, in which case it may not be a good match.
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