H sent a few emails today about initial discussions over financial settlement and child custody things we had talked about Tuesday. I responded that I preferred to discuss in person. I thought it interesting that he does not want to include a morality clause (this is a deal-breaker for me) because he never wants to get married again and does not want to say that he can't have a serious relationship for the next 17 years. That's your choice, H, and your problem. It was a house rule that unmarried couples couldn't sleep in same bed here after our kids were born, and I'm not changing that rule because he is suddenly afraid of commitment.
Also said he's only agreeing to go to the first counseling session, and then he'll see.
An hour after the emails H called D4. I let her answer the phone, heard her say goodbye, she called for me to hang it up, and lo and behold he was still on the phone. I asked if he needed anything, he said no, then gave a follow-up comment on something he had said in one of the emails, then asked what time he is supposed to be at D's dance recital on Saturday. I made a joke about one thing then said goodbye. Why is he not hanging up after he talks to D? Next time I think I'm not going to check to see if he is on the phone and just hang it up.
