I still stand by the motto, "You don't attract what you want, you attract what you are." If you are needy or have serious issues, that's what you'll attract. If you are desperate, that's what you'll attract.
Tomorrow night I will attend yet another workshop on romance, "The Dynamics of Attraction." It's very important to keep working on yourself. Only YOU can *complete* you and make you happy. If you're looking for that in a relationship, forget it. I also believe that until you've resolved ALL issues from your past relationships, you are not free to involve yourself with someone new. It's not fair to them.
Just my point of view.....It doesn't hurt to continue to look inward and use self-reflection to heal. I think too many people rush out to find someone new without finding themselves again, first.
My XH left in May of 2009 and we were officially divorced in May of 2010. I just recently started dating a terrific guy who I would never have been emotionally healthy enough to date until just a couple of months ago and it's going really well.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
