I think you should stop 'reading' her and start following your own instincts. Maybe make a move? Bring home some mistletoe, hold it over her head and give her a long, soft kiss? Even if she seems snippy, try anyway? Could be she's being snippy because she's having a hard time reading YOU?
I think you should stop 'reading' her and start following your own instincts. Maybe make a move? Bring home some mistletoe, hold it over her head and give her a long, soft kiss? Even if she seems snippy, try anyway? Could be she's being snippy because she's having a hard time reading YOU?
Just a thought.
Corri
Copy on make a move. This morning, she came down from getting together. She had something on her butt so I told her to hold still while I brushed it off. She just looked at me. I told her I was trying to get her squared away for work and that's why I was touching her but. She just looked at me. So, I started doing my butt touching thing and kept going beyond the brush off. She just looked at me. I told her "well, I guess I'm just rubbing your butt 'cause I like it." She just looked at me but didn't draw away or anything like that. She had to split.
I'll try something more bold next opp. She called on her way home asking me to get her foot thingy ready for her. No problem. She's sleep now. Now, I think I should have hooked her up with a foot massage. It just didn't occur to me. I didn't think ahead. I can fly planes, predict storms the wether guys can't, I plan several ways out of anything that might happen but when it comes to this, I can't think in more than two dimensions. I'm sure another opp will come up soon. Mistletoe is a good idea. I'll give that a shot.
Jiji...Maybe I'll get a little bolder after I get a little liquid courage in me. I mean holiday cheer. I hope she can get off to go to the Christmas party with me. I still plan on going. I hope it doesn't piss her off.
BR: You're hilarious. I've never met a man (oops, wait yes I have and I'm married to him) who is so awful at reading women! lol
You are a very talented and smart guy but I think you are missing a LOT of her baby steps to you. She knows you have a foot fetish, so she asks you to get her foot thing ready...yeah, that's fishin for you to get INVOLVED in the process. She's using everything in her arsenal (of things that turn you on, I mean) to get your attention. Don't be afraid of getting brushed off; she might do that to "test" you to see if you are really serious. Just keep after her. She wants to be pursued, dude.
I know you are skittish about trusting her and I don't blame you. But she is pursuing YOU trying to get you to pursue her. So take the bait and stop the stupid games.
Maybe you could get her a pretty set of lingerie, a bra and panty type thing. Tell her she doesn't have to wear it for you but that you wanted her to have something pretty to wear during the holidays.
Is that too forward, lol! Ok, now you know MY secret Christmas wish!
Hang in there and I am so happy for you; you are slowly but surely luring her right back into your arms.
Quote: BR: You're hilarious. I've never met a man (oops, wait yes I have and I'm married to him) who is so awful at reading women! lol
You are a very talented and smart guy but I think you are missing a LOT of her baby steps to you. She knows you have a foot fetish, so she asks you to get her foot thing ready...yeah, that's fishin for you to get INVOLVED in the process. She's using everything in her arsenal (of things that turn you on, I mean) to get your attention. Don't be afraid of getting brushed off; she might do that to "test" you to see if you are really serious. Just keep after her. She wants to be pursued, dude.
I know you are skittish about trusting her and I don't blame you. But she is pursuing YOU trying to get you to pursue her. So take the bait and stop the stupid games.
Maybe you could get her a pretty set of lingerie, a bra and panty type thing. Tell her she doesn't have to wear it for you but that you wanted her to have something pretty to wear during the holidays.
Is that too forward, lol! Ok, now you know MY secret Christmas wish!
Hang in there and I am so happy for you; you are slowly but surely luring her right back into your arms.
Honey
You're right. I guess if I'm not looking through the haze of non-trust, I should see it. The boy was saying just last night that mommy is more calm around me and asked what was I doing. I told him I don't know. To that, he said keep doing it. I tried a little move today but found out her monthly bill just arrived. One of the signs was the apperance of a club sized box of femine product.
I don't know about the frilly stuff but that's an idea. I just found out she does plan on getting me a present this year although she said she wasn't. I was hoping she didn't but what can I do. We'll see what happens tonight and I'll report. But, I don't expect much. That monthly billing is a bear as I'm sure you know...........
HP. Just an update. I took a step back to observe for little baby steps and signs. I think I see a couple of them. When she comes in to talk and I'm in the bed, she is now sitting on the bed to talk. She's sitting on her side now as well. Yesterday, she refered to the bed as my side/her side rather than "your bed." She sent a little cartoon that was funny and gave me a little in as far as a suggestion. I volunteered for an assigment(of course sexual). Her reply was "hmmmmm no but nice try." But she ended it with a smiley face. I guess she didn't have to respond or could have said no. I'll keep suggesting but her friend that visits her every month is still here. The reason I write this is your advice told me to be ready to be brushed off. So I took it in stride.
Before I go. Here's a dream I had with her in it last night. It seems she was like a mob boss with goon all around me. She came to wake me up to say I there was someone in the house and to grab my gun(s). She had one which was odd. Well I get tricked onto a shelf where she told me I would have to stay or else her goons would get me. My guns turned out to be loaded with blanks. She took me off the shelf and made a sexual move and then threw me back. She told me I couldn't leave/ couldn't move on her/but had to keep trying or I would get wasted. Strange dream to say the least. What's your take? I'm sure it will be the same as mine.
BR had to put a few of his thoughts on paper to get rid of them and keep his sunny side up. Today marks the 10 year anniversary of me and W going on our first date. It was to a company Christmas party. Tonight, BR is going to his by himself. I asked the wife but she said I waited until the last minute and she couldn't. She said I should stop acting like the kids and tell her about things in time if we really want her to come. At least she didn't say no. That's a plus I reckon.
This morning, I decided I wasn't going to the party because of the feelings associated with it. As the W was leaving for work, she told me to have a good time and not to drink and drive. I told her I wasn't going. To that, she told me she thinks I really should go and was strong about it. I asked her why and to that she said I need to get out with people for a change and have fun. I know she's not trying to get rid of me so that didn't enter my mind.
However, I wonder why she was so strong for me to go. One of the kids was telling me she said that she thinks I should go because they have intruded on my space for a while. They being the whole family. I don't feel as if they have intruded.
Does she think I want to be away from them I don't and I hope that's not what she thinks. I am going I decided. I'll sit with a couple friends and their boyfriend/husband. I'll stick around and have a good time but when the dancing starts, I'm outta there. To add to the nostalgia, I asked the D to pick the tie she liked best for what I'm wearing. She picks out the tie. Yea the tie that I first wore on our first date. It was in the back of things and she had to pick it out. I'll wear it just to take a part of the W with me.
Well, that's out. I will do my best to have a good time. Once I get a couple cups of Christmas cheer in me, I think I'll be just fine.
Blackie I hope you have a good time tonight. I'm sure you will look mighty handsome with your snazzy tie and all.
Listen, I think your wife is still playing games with you. She wants you to pursue her, is what I think. When she says no to something, she might want you to press it and show her that you REALLY want her. It's worth a try to see if this works with her!
I thought of this the other day when you made the sexual comment to her and she acted hard to get in response. I think she wants to turn you down and have you keep trying. This is a thought that turns a lot of women on--to be chased.
Why not try dating her all over again? Something light and fun..shoot pool or go ice skating or whatever. Not going to a movie or something where you are spending time but not TOGETHER. Ask her if she'd consider going on a date with you and go from there.
Have fun tonight and have some cheer for me. We are home sick with the flu. Nothin cheery here.
HP. I hope you and your crew get well soon. I have been fighting something for the past couple weeks. Not major, just tired and hot a little.
I had a good time at the party last night. It was almost too much for me to be honest. I sat with several co-workers, one who knows my sitch. As soon as the booze flowed, she was on me. I nearly caved but stopped the dynamic from going any further. I did have a good time but I would have had a better time with the W there.
I got in about 1 or so. I was basically ordered to be the drunk driver and take these ladies home. Way in the country. All the way there, they were suggesting hotels and threw way activity. In my condition, that was tempting. The affection shown(although it was because they wanted some)as well as the sexual attention was nearly overwhelming. I haven't had anyone come out like this in awhile. It was an ego boost.
W seems to be tense about something this morning. We'll see where she is in the head today and I'll make some kind of plan of action up.
BR is... Well I don't know what I am. W was talking about her foot hurting and such. So, I took the bait and was hunkered down near her and started touching her foot and was about to give it a kiss to make it feel better when all of a sudden, D walks up. I tried every eye thing I could to get her to beat it.
She has a habit of coming in at the worst times. When W is about to think about things from a realistic point of view, D pops up. I'm thinking of telling her to watch my eyes and beat it when she gets the hi sign.
Just last night, she told me to make a move on mommy. This from a pre-teen. She also told me that nearly every other day, mommy asks is BR wearing his wedding band. She also asks how was BR's day. She doesn't really ask me about my day but asks the kids. What's the deal with that. I've noticed her watching my ring finger a lot over the past few weeks. I still wear it just to keep the hounds off. Well that and to show I'm still down with marriage and I just want to. D told this morning mommy reacted funny when she told her that her little girl friend thinks BR is hot. Don't get that one but I didn't see the reaction. Just think, an old dude like me is considered hot by the pimple crowd
Any ideas on how to get rid of mood bashing kids who are in the house when there isn't anywhere to send them. I don't want to say I'm about to bust a move on mommy. Get lost
After last night, BR is good to go. He's ready. My horoscope says a lot today. Check it out.
Your pendulum is about to swing in the other direction. If you sense this change in the wind, you'll know that you have to stay loose and flexible. Avoid backing yourself into a corner at a critical moment, because you might get stuck there. That would be a shame. You have the potential to make great strides and giant leaps. Watch out for the people who could cramp your style. Avoid the extreme behavior of others unless you want to be tarred with the same brush. Cleaning up your reputation would take far too long in the grand scheme of things.
Jesus Christ man, did you buy the damn mistle toe?! You can pull that out in front of God and country, lay a big ole' soft, deep kiss on the woman, and it's legal in every country regardless of WHO is watching, including pre-teen KIDS!!!!!!
Heck, I bet the kids would think that was GREAT!! and they sure as heck will be telling their mommy how much THEY think you love her and give the mistle toe kiss up as evidence.
I don't and I hope that's not what she thinks. I am going I decided. I'll sit with a couple friends and their boyfriend/husband. I'll stick around and have a good time but when the dancing starts, I'm outta there. To add to the nostalgia, I asked the D to pick the tie she liked best for what I'm wearing. She picks out the tie. Yea the tie that I first wore on our first date. It was in the back of things and she had to pick it out. I'll wear it just to take a part of the W with me.
