Part of what is discussed here, and in the book,is GAL, or Get A Life.
That means finding time for you.
Doing the things that you lost over time and throughout your marriage.
The books ? They are for you, not her.
Kudos for addressing the issues with your parents. I would say you always saw it as a problem, just not one that you felt needed immediate attention until it came back in your face ?
It is important to address them for you though, no expectations of it changing anything for her right now.
Good luck with Hockey....I remember thinking ( as most here would) that if I did not see my wife for an entire day, that I would die. Turned out to not be the case. That is why it is so important to take time for you, and find who you are through this. Like being with yourself, it is a magnet.
SIC....make what you do about you for a while, create some mystery about you, and although it may feel counter-intuitive, don't tell her everything you are doing. Let your actions speak louder than your voice. ( much louder).