Quote: She was saying since my ornaments are still in the box, that's ok, I can take them with me. I just looked at her and told her I would be leaving them.
Seems to me that whenever she says stuff to you about the upcoming "D," you could take that as an opportunity to reaffirm to her that you don't want a D. In the above instance, you could say something to her like, "well, as I don't want a "D" I'm not really worried about taking them anywhere other than where they are right now."
Then move on.
It seems to me she says stuff like this to you all the time, and I'm wondering if it is just her way of feeling you out, to see if you really do or don't want a D. When you give non-committal answers, or answers like the one you gave above, it sounds to me like you are sending mixed signals, and I'm sure she's having a hard time figuring out what it is you really want. And I think what she truly wants from you is a consistent message, and reassurance that you really love her and you want your marriage to work.
