PLEASE!! I need to post to my thread. what is wrong with this board?
Hi Marmie,
Other new posters have noticed that there is a time lapse before their posts appear. It's been suggested it's to make sure that if angry spouses "follow" posters here, they are monitored before making nasty attacks on their spouse (as has unfortunately happened more than once).
I hope you will choose to stay here, as there are many experienced people who can help you. Take your time, weigh the opposing viewpoints, and assess exactly what your opposition to the porn is really about. Is it that your H is keeping secrets from you? Could there be an element of control about it? (ie, if you found out he was m@sturbating regularly without you but also without porn, would you feel the same way about it?) Are you opposed to porn as an industry which can exploit women and promote unrealistic views of women's bodies and sexuality (or any other reasons), or do you feel neutral about it except in relation to your H? Do you know whether porn has been a part of your H's life since before you met him, or whether it is a recent interest?
If you look up some of Dance Queen's threads from the Sexually Starved Forum, she had some interesting thoughts about porn that you might find interesting.
