I have been going to MC. We have not discussed my anger problem as much as you would think. Mainly because after the bomb I have not been angry at anything but myself. The only anger I have towards her is that I thought she would have came to me to work on the marriage and leave no stone unturned instead of just saying it is over. I would not call it anger,more like dissapointment. I believe most of my anger was building because of our relationship. Fear. that this might happen. Lack of being able to show my love. We were not communicating. Does this make sense?
I totally understand this (except right now I'm pretty darn angry with H's choices). For me, I was afraid to ask questions or tell H how I felt about the things that were going wrong in our relationship and that led to resentment, which led to anger. I've realized in my soul-searching and IC that I can't necessarily stop feeling angry, but I can and will control how I react to those feelings. Even if you aren't angry right now, it's still good to work with a counselor to figure out what to do when/if you start feeling that again.
