I think it would be helpful if my wife knew she was a WAW. Does anyone agree with me on this. Or should I stick to the 180. She shows no effort in trying to fix marriage.
I told my husband that I'd read that there are LOTS of other couples in our situation, and a lot of them managed to create great marriages after having problems. He was not impressed. For me, this goes back to a control issue - I was trying to control the situation by convincing him to see things my way; that his feelings aren't as important as mine because I Know Better from all my reading. This is a recurring theme in my marriage - one of us (and we do/did alternate) dismissing the other's feelings because the other one is obviously not being logical. That doesn't work - that's what got us here - don't do anything to dismiss or try to diminish what your wife feels right now or you're likely falling back into your own bad patterns.
