"In my case, that is not the reaction I got from my in-laws. They have been helping me fight this affair every step of the way for the last several months."
That's great. Has it influenced your W in any way? If not, then it's not working. But then it still comes down to your W's choice.
In regards to DR, with your changes, has your W made any comments about them? When you interact with her on those rare occasions, how are you? Does she ask about you and your relationships? Is she living with the OM?
I really do believe her family has had an influence on her regarding the affair, yes. While their involvement and pressure may ultimately not be enough, it did cause her to cease all contact with the OM for 3 months...which is more than I can say for anything else that's been attempted through all of this. Like you said though...it's going to come down to my wife's choice above all else.
Yes my wife has noticed and made comments about the changes and improvements I've made. Generally, our conversations have been light and pleasant. She asks about things that are going on in my life and I do the same. The way I act when we are together is positive, hopeful, and confident. I don't break down, pursue, beg, or any of that. I'm just upbeat you know?
And no, she does not live with OM. In fact, he lives 600 miles away.
M: 29, W: 28 Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09) Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10 Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010 Separated 5/22/10 - Present Affair exposed 7/7/10 No children
