"In my case, that is not the reaction I got from my in-laws. They have been helping me fight this affair every step of the way for the last several months."
That's great. Has it influenced your W in any way? If not, then it's not working. But then it still comes down to your W's choice.
In regards to DR, with your changes, has your W made any comments about them? When you interact with her on those rare occasions, how are you? Does she ask about you and your relationships? Is she living with the OM?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.