Not to get into a debate on the exposure thing as I know it's a touchy subject here on these boards...but I still believe it was the way to go in my situation. Ultimately it may not have been able to save my marriage, but I know it slowed her down more than anything else has, and it hasn't really caused any negative side-affects as of yet. Everyone suspected what was going on anyway...and were happy to know the truth amongst all the lies.
M: 29, W: 28 Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09) Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10 Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010 Separated 5/22/10 - Present Affair exposed 7/7/10 No children