"marmie stated that she didn't understand why she wasn't enough .. and that he had to resort to porn to meet his 'needs'."
That's why I asked if she and her H talked about it. I read the post carefully, I just think we need more details.
"Her husband is coercing her.. that needs to stop... or his sex life with his wife is just going to get a lot worse.:
That's quite a blanket statement. I don't see anywhere he coerced her into doing anything. She felt uncomfortable which made him uncomfortable. If she asked him why he wanted to look at porn and really talked about it, that would help them to find solutions.
Was he curious? Did he want to try something new? Did he feel he couldn't ask marnie to do something and so had to fulfill his fantasy elsewhere? We don't know.
And this isn't a SSM problem. It's a problem with communication. He just didn't feel comfortable about talking about it.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
