Aw tank, I just read this and I'm so sad for you, but I think your older boys are incredibly lucky to have you in their lives. If I were in your shoes, I'd weigh whether or not the visits are good for the kids are not. If the kids will be too hurt by not seeing their mother for the 30 days, then I'd bring them to see her but not talk to her myself. If the kids will be fine without the visits, stay home. I'd insist on AT LEAST 30 days with no contact with OM before evening beginning to discuss your R again. Since she's already proven she's willing to stomp all over your boundaries, set them higher. She has to prove she's changing.
