Reacting without really thinking and trying to force choices and set boundaries...
Difficult things here...
Difficult because you may say things you don't really mean and will later regret...
You may not be ready to live with the consequences of a choice, if it is different from the one you want him to make...
Boundaries have to be reinforced or you are just the "little boy who cried wolf" and you may not be ready to do that...
Hence the leave/change mind scenario...
The 48 hour rule, is the best one you can apply at the very beginning of this. It gives you time to cool off and really think about what approach to things you want to take...
It has saved many of us much regret around here...
This is something that has to be tackled in small bites...
Have you read the books?
Do you have any goals yet?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
