Quote: Have you asked her why it is still on the calendar? Tell her that you are not checking up on her but that you haven't received anything in the mail and thought you'd better check it out. Make up a story about your lawyer and paperwork, or whatever you can think of.
The validating thing...well, I don't think it is a matter of laying down and taking heaps of bull-oney from her, but rather you indicating that you hear what she is saying. If nothing else, simply say "I hear what you're saying." As opposed to arguing or telling her your side of things.
I agree with you on the deception. That is a despicable thing to do to another person. I hope with all my heart that this is not what's happening.
Keep me posted.
Yep. I called her this morning to ask why it was still on the calendar. She insisted that her guy was down there and filed. She added you know how the courts are. On one hand, I know. I went to a hearing for my former job. I sat around a half hour before I was told I didn't need to be there as they sent a letter.
But this is different. I hope she isn't trying to pull a fast one. I really do. I will be angry and crushed if I see her down there. I don't think I can take the chance. I hate this feeling. To make things worse and this is trivial. One of her friends sent her a Christmas card that had Miss on it. I can't wait for tomorrow to be over. One way or another.
Last night, I was feeling bad. I'm fighting a bug and the stress of this thing. I went to bed to watch tv and lit a few armoma candles. W comes in and looks around. She takes changes her cloths and sits on the bed talking for 45 minutes about her stuff. There was no talk of the D other than did I get her voice mail. It didn't hit me until later that she was actually sitting on my side of the bed half way up to my knee. I wasted another chance, I know. Or I think I did.
I don't think I'll tell her I went to court tomorrow. That would make her mad. I was close to calling in a favor and checking to see if she asked for a day off at her job. But I resisted.
