W Filed, Still not served, GAL'n every day!

[DangerDave]

Hi Dagny,

Thanks for the reply! Well after the T'giving Holiday I have an xmas party the first part of the month and then I'v been invited to a 3 day track event (I race) down south from me. That's going to be a tricky one as the return day is our anniversary - so add one more thing to my list of things to contemplate!

As for the balance of weekends, we or at least I have been trading off one day for myself and one with the kids. I have been hanging out with some good family friends that we both know well, the W and kids are always invited and one of the kids, d16, usually will go with me and w and s14 stay behind.

I still count that as my weekend parenting day and take the other to myself to hang out with other adult friends - whether it's out riding bikes, dirt bikes or going to dinner and a movie, I make sure it's fun for me and whomever I'm with. I don't overnight and always get home at a reasonable hour.

During the week if w's home I just keep busy with getting all the "single man" household chores done -laundry, dishes, dinner etc. and then hangout with the kids with a bit of TV and then off to bed. These are all 180's for me but really they would have to get done by myself if she's gone anyway - so I've made it a routine I've lived by for the last seven months - so I'm used to it and it does make me feel good being able to handle that part of the household as well as work too!

So that's the plan to date - as for the R and D aspects, I'm just going about my business. Financially it's a bit tight and we could use some of her income to help with the bills, which we never have, but I know it would be a hot button to press if I bring it up and may move her to serve. I've been told to hard line out that end of things, but also that time is my ally here- one will definitely trump the other if I flip that switch I'm sure. So limbo with time again.

Thanks

DD