Sorry for the FIL as that truly sucks. Maybe h will step up more or see himself as the drain on resources that he is...
As for his being consistently nicer since the D bomb, that makes total sense. He knows he's delivered the big bad message so he can afford to be nice. Eases his guilt AND he figures it won't be misconstrued by you as a reconciliatory move. IOW, it's "safe" to be nice to you. Shoot, he may even want a "for old time's sake" intimacy session b/c in HIS mind, he's been clear since he said he's filing...sorry but that's what I've seen a lot of around here. It's not inconsistent in their minds.
But who knows? Maybe now that he can "feel safe" and relax and really look at his choices and options, he won't go thru with it. Does that mean he'll change his personality AND decide to come home AND decide to change AND do the work to affect that change?? Um, maybe not. Time does tell us what we need to know, even if there are never any "why's" to it at all.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
