The WAS re-writing history is very common, helps them just justify in their mind the actions they are taking. It is very hard and frustrating to hear but we have all heard it before.
Your H has trust issues with you...so does getting into yelling matches help with that? And TBH, not so sure he isn't projecting the trust issues...if I read right, he has had three EAs and he doesn't trust you?
What else have you done to contribute to the problems that you can work on?
For now, stop pursuing, no R talks...those will just push him further away. Stay upbeat, positive, attractive, fun, happy.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11