Was checking emails and such and thought I would update and vent.
Yesterday, W emailed me at work asking for my attorney name and addy. I asked why and she came back that I was being secretive. She then said her attorney just asked and I could tell her when I wanted to. I'm not telling her who she is right now. The major reason is her guy was stomped by my girl twice. I don't want him to know who she is for that reason until it's time. He's not too much on the ball. Unless he doesn't know what I look like and I think he does, he looked right at me and her at lunch. Oh well.
W claimed she cancelled intital hearing. As of this morning, nothing has been called off. I called her for information and told her I believe this was an attempt at a deception. She presented a crazy settlement that would give her the house, have me pay 1/2 on a loan that is %90 hers and covers pre-marital debt. She wants to claim the kids which I think is fair on her taxes. She then said she wants all mortgage deductions as well. After 2 years, she wants to give me 1/4 of what I want. I wasn't too happy but I didn't flip out.
I told her what I wanted. She left and told me in a sarcastic way "I love you to!" She thinks because I love her I should roll over. No way. My primary hope is we work this out. But if we don't I need to be ready to move on. My cash will be a good start.
She asked what kind of example would be set if she stayed because of the kids. I told her we need to work on ourselves and that would spill over to the kids. It's my opinion if she brought down the walls, she would see there is hope. I can only make myself better. Not her.
I told her and maybe I shouldn't have that her wanting to D will teach the kids that when things get rough in a R, split. Don't keep vows you have given. The exact lessons her parents passed down to her. Each of her siblings have had at least one D. One is on her third marriage and another is about to D after 11 years. Another brother who has a D under his belt picked up a new squeeze and sent his baby's mother packing. Granted, she's a freak but still...
Sorry to use up bandwith. I would rather vent here than at home or overload friend's emails with my drama.
